Mum 33


Full Name: Dorothy Verna Gardiner

Description: Mother to Bob, Kaye, Anne, David.

Location: Enfield, South Australia, Australia

Date Born: 22nd July 1927
Location Born: Enfield, South Australia, Australia

Date Died: 9th March 2008
Location Died: Enfield, South Australia, Australia

Memorial: Verna Gardiners service was held at Alfred James in Prospect at 2.30 p.m. on the 17th March, 2008. South Australia, Australia. Verna was entered in the Enfield Cemetary on the 17th of March 2008.



Verna Gardiner

Born at Enfield, South Australia, Australia.

1. VERNAS LIFE to be read by John Greene.

We are here today to say our last goodbyes to Verna.

Daughter of Nel and Len Jeffries, Sister of Ray and Gordon. Mother of Bob, Kaye, Anne and David.

As we know, when you reach Verna’s age a person has achieved many milestones. We would like to take you on a short walk of her life.
Verna met Jack, fell in love and married in 1946. They built their home at Enfield and both spent their lives together, devoted to each other, their children and their families.

Verna was an excellent dressmaker. Verna made all her own clothes and ours. The list was endless to what Verna made.

Dresses, coats, bathers, Kayes and Anne’s wedding and bridesmaids dresses, costumes and even upholstered seating in 2 caravans that Jack built.

Kaye would come home from work on Fridays and she would have a new dress to wear out, Anne’s primary school friends kept a little book with the new dresses she wore, and not only were we dressed well, Anne had the best dressed Barbie dolls in town…..hats and all.
Verna was a great homemaker and in early years after the family duties were completed, would spend hours in the shed wiring lights for Jack, as they had an electrical light company. Verna worked so hard but never complained.

Verna spent years umpiring and coaching Anne’s netball team and later started a party plan business. Verna did this for 10 years and loved it. She met many friends and families during this time and only stopped due to Jacks health.
Verna’s love of music came out in Bob and David. She was so proud of Bob and his achievements as a performer and told his praise to all. Verna went everywhere she could to see Bob sing…………. and in later years with David.

Verna and Jack loved caravanning. Off they would go. They would have some great times away with their family in early years and in later years enjoyed caravanning with Dot and Keith.
David was mums youngest and although Verna worked whilst he was growing up, Verna has spent much quality time with his family in later years.

Verna always treated her children all equally, although they are all very different.

She loved all her grandchildren. Kim, Heidi, Julian Shane, Lee, Greg, Scott, Ashleigh, Hayley, Holly and Bill.

And they all loved her. No one was her favourite and they all were always keen to visit. Verna looked after them at times with pride and love.We show much fortune that the grandchildren and great grandchildren were able to know her and were old enough to remember her and her big heart and smiling face.

Jack passed away over 10 years ago and Verna struggled with his loss. She fought back. How lucky she was to have Bob………… her brick.
We all thankyou Bob for being their for her.

In later years, after Jacks passing, Verna would go to the Paradise Hotel, every Saturday night for company and to dance. She just loved it.

We can still see her up there dancing 12 months ago Verna suffered a stroke. She was so worried about not being able to put her lipstick on as she had loss some use of her hand.

Just weeks later, their she was at Greg and Leannes wedding, looking beautiful, shoes off on the dance floor doing the nanna jig (as Bill calls it)

Leaving all the grandchildren running for cover just in case she would pull them up on the dance floor.

When Ashleigh and Hayley were young they would always say to Anne, “where not dancing with nanna, give her a chair” as they would watch her doing the rounds of the table to get a dancing partner. Good old Scott, he would always get up with nanna and have a dance.

In the last few years, Verna has been blessed with 8 great grandchildren and she loved them all.

There are many stories, happy and sad we could tell, as I’m sure all of you here today would have.

We ask you to remember Verna as she was. Loving, Caring and Happy.

2. Read by Bob – Eldest son.

For Mum

Firstly I thank you all for attending today.
We all know Mothers are special;
My Mother was certainly no exception.
Mum was special in everyway.

With Mum and my Dad, they taught me the values of being decent with morals that I should live by and follow through my life.

As many people that have passed through my life and met Mum she would become an instant friend with her kindness, presence and charm while leaving you with the feeling you had known her all your life.

Mum dressed immaculately always presenting herself to the upmost and spreading happiness. Be it home or out and never pretended to be anything else but herself.

In my case most times when phoning or meeting a friend the first thing motioned was “Hi Bob How’s Mum”!

Mum was the real thing, Genuine to the end.
I have lost the most precious and important person in my life and now a very big part of my life has gone.

Mum, I love you and you will always be in my heart.

Your loving son, Bob.

3. Kaye – to be read on behalf of Kaye. 1st daughter

How hard this was for me to write.
I knew the time would eventually come, but always pushed the thoughts aside. “Well its time”.

Mum has left us and gone to dad – to the love of her life.
How happy they must be now.
As I write this, I cry – then laugh and then cry some more. Lots of memories flooding back.
We could not of wished for a more loving mum, nanna and great grand mother.

She was a beautiful gentle lady. Strong and reliable. She didn’t judge us or ridicule, and above all was there if we needed her.

My time with mum as a child was our interest in ballet. She would sit for hours at the sewing machine and sit for many more sewing on sequins. Never a complaint, only a smile.

She loved Jeff as her son and always praised his commitment and love to me and our families. Jeff loved her with all his heart and he is going to miss her deeply.

Lee, Greg and Scott loved her and will always cherish their memories. They can still remember the cheese sandwiches she made, complete, cut in quarters, still with the single wrap plastic on.

They laugh at this, and so did mum…………that was the beauty of mum, everything was fun, never taking things to seriously and being able to laugh at herself. Not on show for anyone.

She loved her great grand children. Poor mum. She couldn’t keep up with all the pink and blue fluffy teddies.

Mum would no sooner catch up on her IOU teddy and another baby would arrive. She loved them all as she loved us all.

Mum was a very proud lady, independent, caring and loved life, her home and her car.

That Damn car- wonder if she ever found that knock she always complained about.
She dressed with dignity and style, with her clothes, suits and shoes. High heels were the go.

Mum and Dad were so in love, which meant our home was full of love.
They taught us to be strong, think of others and treasure what we have. Now our greatest treasures have gone.

As I finish, I still feel mum is here and I’m waiting for her familiar voice to say- “want a cool drink, coffee, tea, something to eat”
Now I’m going to cry again. Because I know I’m not going to hear your voice.

We love you and miss you mum,

Kaye Jeff and families. Lee, Greg and Leanne, Scott and Cherie and her adored 8 grandchildren.

Anne’s – 2nd daughter to be read by John Green on her behalf ??? probably (I will decide on day)

I know I’m loud and always have a lot to say, and you and dad always said that my mouth would get me into a lot of trouble. So, if I’m not standing reading this myself, I hope you are listening and not missing this as you have finally silenced me.

If I’m reading this I say “good job Anne” as this is going to be the hardest thing I have ever done.

Wherever there is a beautiful soul there is a trail of beautiful memories and I would like to reflect on my memories of how wonderful my mother was to me.

I always was proud to say “ that’s my mum”
When I was growing up I believed my home and family was just the best. I was so proud. To me it was perfect.

My little friends I had at primary school would come home with me in the lunch hours and mum would make a sandwich for us all. They would have a swim in the pool and all the towels were waiting for us. Mum would fuss over all of them. She just loved doing what she could for all of us. Everyone was always welcome which made my house a home that everyone wanted to come to.

My friends all loved coming to my house for a sleep over on the weekends. Mum would bring supper into the bedroom and kiss me goodnight and also kiss my friends good night, just like they were hers.

And in the morning in she would come in with breakfast.
When we went caravanning, we always took a friend along.
She would make me new bathers, nighties and a new dressing gown to wear to the showers at the caravan park.
But mum would not just sew for me, she would also make a set for my friend. Who’s mother does that ?
Mine did.

If I went to a pool party or just up to the pool, I would have the a new pair of small bikinis that mum would make.

Well some things change mum , you wouldn’t be able to make small bathers for me anymore mum.
And that’s something I’m not thanking you for.
My birthday was so special. Mum would hand make little crepe paper shoes that she would fill with lollies and also make little matching hats. Her heart and love went into everything she did.

I remember when mum went bingo, I would lay in bed and wait until I heard her car pull in the drive, and then wait until I would hear her walking outside with your high heels. Mum was my greatest treasure. The thought of her not coming home bothered me. I finally could rest when I would hear her key go into the front door.

I remember when I wanted to go to Queensland in the car with Tony when I was 18.

Great debates, mum didn’t want me to go, nor did dad, they worried about my safety.

I remember sitting at the table, I was going no matter what……doesn’t sound like me at all !!!
And I remember Nanna Gardiner saying to mum and Dad…………just let the girl go Jacky!!!! So I went.

And guess who spent the next 2 weeks phoning home every morning and night as I missed them so much. I had to do that to make myself rest so I knew they were alright. I don’t know who worried more.

Mum coached our netball team for years. Every Tuesday and Thursday night for practice and again for the game on Friday night.
Mum would travel to each of the girls homes that played in the team, pick them up and drop them off.

Mum loved it, Nothing was too much trouble. And the all the girls loved her.

We all had so many laughs in that car, 9 of us in one car-no seatbelts in those days, all crammed in but it was so much fun. And she would laugh along with our stupidity.

Mum you always loved life, dancing, laughing.. And when I went out with you sometimes I would say to you. “Mum, don’t embarrass me” as you always would say crazy things and make everyone laugh.

Ashleigh and Hayley have said to me at times, “mum your going to be just like nanna”. And deep down I’m thinking, great, she was fun. Mum was a real mum and if I can be half the mother to you Ashleigh and Hayley that mum was to me I would have done my job well.

She was my guidance and my friend.

Dot and Shirley, Thank you for being great friends to mum, she loved you both.

Mum and Dad “the greatest gift you gave us all was that you loved each other so much”. Thank you.

And mum, right up to the Sunday before you passed you would always say to me, “Anne, you are my angel sent from heaven

Mum …………you were my anchor, my foundation……you are my Angel.

5. David Second son: He was going to email his to you and David will be reading this. David with wife Sharon read out their thought’s of their love for our mother.

6. Lee: Granddaughter of Verna to read by Lee on behalf of the grandchildren.

Our Nanna.

Such a special lady that all of the grandchildren were blessed to be able to call their Nanna.

11 grandchildren and many great grandchildren.

The wonderful memories of Nanna that we will cherish forever and pass down to our children , her great grandchildren.

Nanna, was different to most Nanna’s…..you don’t see many 80 year olds up on a dance floor dancing and keeping up with all the young ones, off with the shoes and off she went always getting someone up to dance.

She wasn’t one to ask for help, cutting the lawn , painting the house. the list is never ending…she was always doing something…infact I think every time we saw her she was told to just sit down and relax.

Nanna is now with her great love, she missed pupa so much and told me so many times over the years of their beautiful love affair and how she missed her mate.

She loved us all and loved seeing the family together and her eyes always lit up when she saw the great grandchildren. How lucky we were to get so many years with such a beautiful Nanna.

I would like to read a Poem dedicated to Nanna.

She is gone.

You can shed tears that she is gone.
or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her and only that she’s gone or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back or you can do what she’d want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

7. Silence and play song as we have silent time Song “Anne Murray” – “I Just Fall Inlove Again”.

Announce this was Vernas favourite song and dedicate it to mum and dad.

8. Prayers …… John Greene.

9. Poem to read before guest leave parlour – to be read by John Greene.

The Family of Verna would like to leave you all with this thought before leaving the parlour.

“The dash between the Years”
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone,
From the beginning …to the end.

He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth…
And now only those who loved her,
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars…the house…the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard…
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile.
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy’s being read
With your life’s actions to rehash…
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?

As we leave the parlour play the song “ smile”
Before we leave today, the family would like to extend their love and give their condolences to the Kosch family. Aunty Doreen was Verna’s loved sister in law. We thankyou for coming today at this time of your grief.

Our thoughts will always be with you. You were a wonderful mother and lady.